Some people have the understanding that cremation needs to be a quick disposal with no participation of family and friends and also no contact with the body. Cremation can be that way if one wants, but in reality there are many ways of saying goodbye and celebrating a life well-remembered.
If a family desires, they may still have a traditional funeral with the body present for visitation and services at the funeral home church or any location. People can attend the crematory for a chapel service or committal, choose to witness the start of cremation, or can have the funeral home take care of everything for them.
More options are outlined below.
Cremation Memorial Options … making the selection
It is never too soon to set up a visual symbol in beautiful surroundings that will perpetuate cherished memories. But beautiful memorials don’t just happen; they require forethought and planning.
Many families make their memorial selections in advance so that decision-making can be done together and can be eliminated during a time of stress. Whether a memorial purchase is made in advance or at the time of need, you will want to be familiar with the many cremation memorial options that are available.
A columbarium is an indoor or outdoor wall containing niches. A niche is defined as a recessed compartment designed to hold urns. Columbariums may be an entire building, a room, a wall along a corridor or a series of special alcoves or halls in a mausoleum, chapel, or other building located in a cemetery or on other dedicated property.
The Urn Garden
Many cemeteries or memorial parks have areas designated specifically for the interment of cremated remains. These areas are called Urn Gardens and are set aside for those who desire in-ground or above-ground interment. Some gardens offer individual urn burial plots that will accommodate a marker. Others offer unmarked areas for interment of the urn, with adjacent walls or sculptures for memorial plaques.
If you already own a burial plot or have a space in a family lot, you may choose to inter the cremation urn there. Cemeteries often permit the interment of the cremated remains of more than one person in a single adult space. The monument or marker you select will be a genealogical record for your family and a lasting symbol of the special life you want to remember and commemorate. Bradley & Son Funeral Homes can take care of all your monument needs; all you need to do is request more information while checking out.
Urns for the permanent containment of cremated remains come in a variety of sizes, styles and materials. In fact, there are urns to satisfy every taste, requirement, and budget. You may select an urn from bronze, pewter, marble, granite, brass or from selected hardwoods. They are also available in porcelain, ceramic, stone, hand-blown glass and cloisonné. Urns range in size from single to multiple capacity, and in styling from the traditional book shape to uniquely themed pieces. Simple Cremation of New Jersey and Bradley & Son Funeral Homes offer an extensive selection of urns.
Keepsake Urns and Similar Options
Many urns are also available in smaller versions to hold a small portion of the remains. These are referred to as Keepsake Urns. They are especially appropriate when only a portion of the cremated remains are to be scattered or when families choose to divide the cremated remains among family members.
Presentation urns, which are large enough to hold a temporary urn, are also available for use at a memorial or religious service when a family is undecided as to the final disposition of the cremated remains.
The Scattering Garden
In recent years some cemeteries have opened areas to scatter cremated remains. Called Scattering Gardens, these dedicated properties provide choices for personal memorialization. Often individuals whose remains have been scattered in the garden are identified on a special memorial plaque, wall, or unique work of art on which the names are inscribed. Some cemeteries also have benches on which a plaque may be attached or a living memorial, such as a tree, where a plaque may be placed in front of it. Some cemeteries offer memorializing an individual with an entry in a Book of Memories or Remembrance located in a chapel or mausoleum on the cemetery grounds. These entries, beautifully executed in calligraphy and often illuminated in the manner of ancient manuscripts, provide a personal lasting tribute.
Scattering by Yourself
Despite the Hollywood image of scattering cremated remains by throwing up a fine powder which wafts away in the breeze, the process is more like spreading out several pounds of dry white rice mixed with several ounces of fine powder. Rather than wafting away, the cremated remains are more likely to fall to the ground in a heap. This should be kept in mind when you are selecting a scattering site. You may wish to ask someone who is not a direct relative of the deceased to handle the actual scattering process because of the intense emotions that scattering sometimes brings up.
The federal government also has regulations regarding the disposal of cremated remains and many local jurisdictions require notification and permits. Areas where remains may be scattered or otherwise disposed of may be restricted. We encourage you to speak with a cemetery or crematory representative for current information about those regulations.
Cremated remains are almost pure calcium phosphate and calcium carbonate and are thus alkaline. If they are to be scattered in a garden or used in planting a tree, you will need to be sure that the plants chosen are not acid-loving or alkali-intolerant. The scattering gardens in cemeteries are designed with this in mind. If you are not sure, contact a local nursery and ask about the alkali tolerance of the plants you prefer.
Because there are so many different choices, Simple Cremation of New Jersey and Bradley & Son Funeral Homes want to make it easy for you. For more information regarding what do with your loved one’s remains, simply request more information when completing your online arrangements or speak with one of our funeral directors by calling (973)908-9023 .
Sources include: www.CremationAssociation.org -Cremation Association of North America (CANA)